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Writing a wedding vow can be a wonderful, but also a challenging task. How do you express the essence of your love? How to make the promise personal, sincere, and memorable. In this blog, I provide practical tips and inspiration for writing your unique wedding promise.
Where do you start writing and what don't you put into it? The most important thing is to realize that you are writing a promise for each other. Prior to writing, it is good to determine what kind of load the nice words should carry. Do you opt for a humorous or an emotional wedding promise?
Before you start writing, take some time to think about your relationship. For example, ask yourself a few questions, such as:
How and when did we met and what did you think then?
What makes him or her so special?
What moments of your time together do you cherish the most?
What does getting married mean to you?
Of course, you write a wedding vow to express how you feel about each other and why he or she is that man or woman for you. In order not to let the story jump from “hot to her”, a logical structure is fairly important. For example, first write about why the spark jumped and then write a bit about the beautiful things you created together. Think about any nice trips, about living together or perhaps about the children you had together.
The best wedding promises are personal and authentic. Write the promise in your own language and make sure it suits you as a person. So don't make the text too sweet, but use your own (word) jokes and nicknames. Use anecdotes and details that are unique to your relationship. For example, talk about the moment you knew this was right the one for you:.
Example:
I still remember the first time we went on a road trip together. How you made me laugh at every wrong turn and how you always stayed calm, even though we were running out of fuel. With you, every adventure feels like home.
Write like you talk and don't be afraid to be emotional. The most important thing is that the wedding promise comes from your heart. In your words. A wedding vow does not have to be an article, but above all sincere and real.
End your wedding vow with what you promise each other. After all, it's a wedding promise. Think about what you want to promise your partner. This can be romantic, funny or practical.
Examples:
“I promise to support you with whatever you want to do, no matter how big or small your dreams are.”
“I promise to keep surprising you with a cup of coffee every morning.”
“I promise never to let you win at board games.”
“I promise to love you no matter what life throws at us.”
Decide together what length is ideal. It would be a little uncomfortable if there is a big difference in length. It doesn't have to be a roman. Try to keep it short and to the point so that the core of your message gets across. As a filmmaker, I recommend that the vows should not last longer than three minutes. This is ideal for the movie, but it also remains unforgettable for your guests.
Here is an example of a short and powerful start to a vow:
You know I started writing this months ago, but in the past seven days, I've completely rewritten the wedding vow. What a week we had. The first of many difficult decisions we will have to make together, the first of many challenges we will face.
I know I'm never alone with you. This past week was a proof of the husband you will be to me...
It's good to practice saying the wedding vow a few times, but don't overdo it. After all, it is important that the promise remains real and does not look like a lecture. Optionally, you can use a note with a number of keywords. This good be very handy, because you then have something up your sleeve if you can't find the words anymore. It's certainly okay if you're nervous and forget your vow, or if there are more tears than words. In my opinion, this actually makes it more beautiful.
Read your wedding vow out loud several times to see how it sounds. This helps to uncover any tricky sentences. This way, you can still change your wedding promise. The more you do this, the easier it becomes for the ceremony.
If you are really afraid of saying the wedding promise during the ceremony, you can also choose another moment during the wedding day. For example during the photo shoot moment. Then there is no one else besides the photographer and me.
Writing vows is a chance to capture your love in words and let your partner know how special he or she is to you. Be yourself, write with love, and enjoy the process. It's going to be a moment you'll cherish all your life.
